sem m06 cybersmart parents education seminar pelavin2

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1.# RSAC SESSIONID:SEM-M06 CYBER SMART EDUCATION SEMINAR Erica Pelavin, LCSW, PhD Co-Founder My Digital TAT2
5.Social Media and the Brain #RSAC Brains are hard wired to seek new information. We get a shot of dopamine with a new text, tweet, or Instagram like. Texts and tweets are “highly perishable” They lose social value if not responded to instantly. For teens “always on” can feel like a social imperative. © My Digital TAT2. All rights reserved 5
7.Your Personal Relationship with Technology and Social Media? What message does this image convey? Check in with your emotions. What are they telling you? What are connections you can make to your own life? © My Digital TAT2. All rights reserved 7 #RSAC
8.Student Responses Tell Us A Lot #RSAC Escapism- “A quick fix”, “a cure”, “a way of numbing the pain” Habit Forming “We need them as supplements” As an upper “Can be useful when you are feeling down” “A form of medicine” Not all pills are alike – “You don’t always know what you are getting into”. Looks can be deceiving. © My Digital TAT2. All rights reserved 8
9.#RSAC Looks negative on the surface but have to dig deeper to understand the value ExploreIdentity:The screen helps you to be someone else, take on a new persona AddictiveQuality:“It is not great for you but you can’t stop” “The high only lasts a short time” “Have to take more pills to continue the happiness” “You don’t know what you are getting by diving into social media” © My Digital TAT2. All rights reserved 9
12.Psychological Responses to Social Media #RSAC Allows teens to divulge parts of themselves they may hide offline Provides a platform to process anxiety, find others with similar struggles or interests Can lead to group cruelty, self harm and risk taking © My Digital TAT2. All rights reserved 12
13.Phone Phobia #RSAC Not listening to voice messages. Overwhelmed by group texts. By texting, they can control the direction of the conversation and “Evoid” if they don’t want to connect These “weaknesses” of conversation teach the skills of negotiation, reading emotion, of facing the complexity of confrontation. © My Digital TAT2. All rights reserved 13
14.Expectation For Immediate Response #RSAC Increasingly anxious when they do not receive an immediate response from a text. “Allowable response time” is getting shorter and shorter. Text and worry- “Are they hurt, mad, injured, evoiding me?” © My Digital TAT2. All rights reserved 14
15.Knowing Your Child #RSAC If a student is struggling in the “real world,” with self esteem, gender identity, body image, they may carry that struggle into their online lives. The same is true for passions and interests. Guidingprincipal:Does it close down their world or open it up? © My Digital TAT2. All rights reserved 15
16.From Unconscious to Conscious Looping #RSAC What did you notice about your loop? What are you constantly checking? What stays on in the background? Do you check more after a post? Is there an emotion attached to it? Are you ever free of the loop? © My Digital TAT2. All rights reserved 16
18.Wired and Tired #RSAC My friend was sleeping over and we couldn’t fall asleep. We Googled how to fall asleep, and it said, ‘get off your device’.” -4th grade boy “ © My Digital TAT2. All rights reserved 18
19.Comin to School With Digital Hangovers #RSAC Multitasking/task switching in the last hour before going to sleep. The content itself can over-stimulate the mind and emotions. Even for kids who just sleep with devices in bedroom, the lights and sounds affect the body’s natural timing and alertness. © My Digital TAT2. All rights reserved 19
20.Second Hand Digital Use #RSAC Kids are sensitive to and impacted by digital use in their environment. Siblings and parents digital use is effecting sleep. We are having a hard time having a deep conversations or concentrating. We are all feeling ignored and lonely. © My Digital TAT2. All rights reserved 20
22.Digitally Distracted Parenting #RSAC “When my Dad get’s home at 6:30, I go downstairs to say hi. He’s on his phone and doesn’t see me. I come down again later and he is on his device. There’s never a good time to get his attention.” 6th grade student We looked depressed No Modeling of appropriate expression Lack of connection © My Digital TAT2. All rights reserved 22
24.Exposure toPorn:Having the Porn Talk #RSAC . Start simply and without shame inducing comments. Don’t be reactive No one should look that way. Bodies are surgically and hormonally enhanced, and exaggerated by the way they’re photographed. Porn stars aren’t meant to look real Porn sex isn’t real, either Real sex comes with emotions Sending Sexts can have long term consequences © My Digital TAT2. All rights reserved 24